Here’s what Marty McLain says in the documentary:
I believe same-sex attraction is a sin. When it comes to homosexuality, the worst thing I could do to somebody is say, “You know, God made you that way and he wants you to stay that way. And God’s all for a homosexual relationship.” When you look in the Bible, you see what God says about homosexuality. I’d have to deny so much of scripture in order to give that type of counsel.
The implications and effects of what McLain is saying there are cruel and unjust, but McLain, as a Nice Person, isn’t thinking about those implications and effects. And it seems important to him that we appreciate that he does not intend to sound cruel or unfair.
But even more important than assuring others of his good intent is his apparent need to reassure himself of his good intent. That is the function of the anti-gay preacher boilerplate he invokes there about “the worst thing I could do” and about how it’s actually most loving for him to tell these homosexual sinners that being homosexual makes them sinners and that they must repent of being that. The function of that argument is purely internal. It’s not an attempt to persuade others. It’s not a statement addressed to others — not to LGBT people, or to Scandinavian TV producers, or to anyone else. It’s a therapeutic, self-help affirmation addressed to themselves — a way of telling themselves what they need to hear told them in order to stave off the creeping suspicion that they may be perceived as cruel and unfair.
And in order to stave off the even creepier creeping suspicion underlying that one — the fear that this perception might be accurate because they are, in fact, saying something and doing something that is cruel and unfair."